From the age of 13 people start asking the question, ‘What do you want to be when you leave school?’ We all examine what our interests are, what our parents suggest and perhaps the thing that sways the decision most is whether or not you can earn a living doing that.
We either study or do an apprenticeship to enter this field and in a sense our adult life begins. We take on this role, this job and it becomes a defining part of our personality. For some the balance between the job and home life is easy to maintain, for others the job becomes the all encompassing identity. You may get distracted by the every day matters that need to be dealt with at work, you may spend all your time focused on pleasing the boss. You may be the boss who is never satisfied with the work of their employees but is that really who you are or is there more to you? You may feel as though there is no meaning to your work and consequently your life but you have the power within you to change this.
It takes courage to reexamine yourself and to realise that mistakes have been made. It takes courage to be honest with yourself and to step out of the role or adapt the role. Ask yourself who you really want to be and how you really want to be and then go for it! The change you are looking for is within you and is different for everyone of us.
In order to properly evaluate yourself and let go of identifying yourself with your job alone you need to look at all the aspects of your life as a whole. If you have been keeping your head above water and throwing all your energy into your job simply to survive there will be other parts of you that need nurturing whether they be attention to family , taking up an old hobby, allowing yourself time to relax or learning something new. You are a whole being with many important parts, your job is only one of those. By ensuring that you are a whole, happy person you will ensure better productivity all round.
• Get a blank sheet of paper
• Draw a large circle
• Divide the circle into 8 segments – like a pizza – where each piece represents an area of your life as it is now. (See Below).
• Label each piece from the list below. This Life Wheel is labeled with eight areas of life
• You can use these labels or, if there is a specific area of your life you would like to examine just substitute a category.
The general categories:
1. Fun/Recreation – Happiness, Hobbies
2. Relationship/romance/Significant Other – current or future Life Partner
3. Career /Occupation- Job satisfaction, Career path, voluntary work
4. Family/Friends – Children, Parents, Relatives. People that you care about.
5. Social – Friends, Sport, Activities
6. Health – Exercise, Diet, Sleep
7. Financial – Savings, Investments , enough to live as you like to live.
8. Creative /Personal Growth- Self-space, Spiritual, Sport, Artistic
• Assign a number from 1 to 10 next to each category.
Write 1 if you are unsatisfied in this area and up to 10 if you are totally satisfied.
• Look at your scores. What are the 2 lowest scores? What are the 2 areas you would most like to move forward?
• Moving forward … How would you feel if you could significantly move forward in these 2 areas?
• • Action What could you do to start moving forward in these areas?
• Imagine yourself as two people
• Talk to one – your more rational one (the head) – about issues
• Talk to the other – the feeling one (your heart) – about feelings and emotions